Writers’ block conjures up images of the impoverished author, sitting at a typewriter, a blanket over his/her lap and a cigarette hanging despondently from stained teeth.
This malady has three main forms:
- Perfectionism: you know what you want to write but what you write is never good enough, or never expresses what you really mean, or doesn’t capture the soul of the subject;
- Motivation: you know you want to write, you might have the ideas, you might have the plot thought out and the characters described but somehow you just never have the time to write or never feel up to writing when you do;
- Direction: you have the desire to write, you probably even have a great setting or a great character but you just can’t write.
When broken down into these particular forms, writer’s block starts to make sense and can be easily dealt with.
Perfectionism
If you find yourself sitting at the computer hour after hour rewriting the same sentence, it probably means that you want your writing to be perfect. After all who doesn’t want to be perfect?
However, why would you want to write a manuscript which is so good it doesn’t need editing? And who does that anyway?
If you want a perfect manuscript you will not achieve it by rewriting that sentence 50 times. Although each sentence you write may be structurally perfect, a good story or a good novel is much more than the choice of words and the sentence structure. Professional writers who are successful have a holistic view of their work, if a sentence or paragraph isn’t quite right, that’s fine because after they have completed the work they can see whether it is really necessary and can see how best to alter it to fit the structure of the entire story. You see, if you really want to write the perfect story, you really need to forget about perfectionism.
Once you have forgotten about writing the perfect story it becomes much easier. Each line you write is no longer a work of art – it is the final copy which is the work of art. This means you are less emotionally involved with the manuscript and can see more clearly what needs to be cut, what needs to be extended and how to rephrase sentences to meet the overall needs of what you are writing.
There are a couple of good tasks which you can do to get you past the perfectionist mindset.
1. Free writing: sit down and spend 15 minutes writing about what-ever comes to mind. Make sure the writing is continuous, that you do not pause to think about it. The majority of what you write will probably be atrocious but see how much you have written and compare it with how long it would normally take you to write that much normally. If you already have a story or novel idea in mind you may find that what you have written is actually pretty good and just needs a little editing.
2. Flash fiction: Give yourself the task of writing a paragraph within a two minute time period. Write four paragraphs and see what story you have. For example write separate paragraphs for each of the following:
- a setting
- a character
- an action
- a dialogue
This is sufficient for fully rounded short story. It will probably only be 200-300 words in length, but when was the last time you wrote a short story in 10 minutes? Then try experimenting with it by changing the order of the paragraphs. Write a new story starting with a character, then dialogue, then action, then setting, play around and see how different structures affect the creative process.
3. Spend 10 minutes describing one of your favourite hobbies or interests and explain why you like it. Focus on writing for as much of the ten minutes as you can.
You will notice that these exercises all focus on writing quickly. Quality is something which can be polished and improved on with time, content cannot, you need to be able to write it before you can make it perfect. People who write a lot tend to produce higher quality prose than people who write only a little, largely because they spend a lot of time practising both the writing and the editing. This effectively serves to train them to write quality copy even in their first draft, but their focus is not on quality, it is writing the story as the first step to producing a final, publishable draft.
Motivation
Want to write but never get round to doing it? The chances are you aren’t motivated to write. There are good reason’s to be unmotivated, it requires time and energy, it is often solitary and for most there is little or no financial reward. If you are not writing and would like to be you need to find a reason to write.
You can work out what is stopping you from writing and come up to solutions to those problems. If you find writing to solitary and isolated – start writing with somebody. You could try writing independently and just discussing your work or you could even try writing collaboratively.
If you need a financial reward you can try setting yourself goals to make money from your writing – find publications that pay for creative writing, research what sort of writing they want and start writing specifically for those publications. Alternatively you can “pay” yourself for your writing by establishing a rewards system. If you complete a story or a piece of work by a certain deadline, you reward yourself by buying something you really want, or doing something you really want to do.
If you find that you don’t have time to write but would like to, you need to start looking at your priorities. How much do you really want to write? Why don’t you have the time or energy to write? What do you need to do to enable yourself to write?
If you do want to write regularly, you need to make writing regularly a priority and that may mean lowering the priority of other interests: TV or trivia night might be something you cut back on while writing.
Another important part to motivating yourself to write is having goals and knowing what you want. If you want to be a writer – what exactly does that mean to you? Do you need to write everyday to consider yourself a writer? Do you need to be publishing what you write to consider yourself a writer? When you know what you consider is necessary for you, you can decide on what aims and goals you have.
You may decide that as you have full time work, you want to write a novella a year. This would give you an ongoing goal which would fit in with your work timetable. You can then decide to spend a few hours each weekend writing. You might decide that you want to write a short story a month and might spend two evenings a week writing. When you have a clear aim of what you want to do, make sure you also have a deadline to keep – this helps reduce procrastination. When you do meet your deadlines and requirements, reward yourself for doing so. It helps keep you motivated and interested.
Direction
The other problem which writers have when suffering from writers’ block is essentially a lack of direction. You have the motivation to write, you have an idea or a character or an event you want to write about but you just don’t know what to write.
If you story lacks direction there are two main problems that you need to deal with. You may not have a sufficiently strong plot or your characters may not be sufficiently developed to drive the plot.
If you are having trouble developing the plot, focus on the setting and the characters. Work out the environment the characters are living in. Work out what they do as part of their daily lives in the location where they currently are. Then think about the characters, what is their background? What skills do they have? What habits, what friends, what interests do they have?
Work out the details for all the characters. Once you know the setting and the characters it will be much easier to find their need which then acts as the stimulus for the rest of the plot. Once you have a need and know the sort of people your characters are the plot will quickly fall into place and the characters will come across as being genuine, plot events will be plausible.
These are the three main problems people have with writers’ block. If you follow through each of these stages you will probably resolve many of the issues you have had.
There is a myriad of techniques which can be used to both enhance your creativity and overcome issues surrounding sabotage and writers block. For more information contact Peter.
© Peter Campbell, NLP Master Practitioner, www.cogniscientnlp.com.
It is a common mistake among couples that they only go to a relationship coach or counsellor when things get bad. This is like suggesting that the national team shouldn’t have a coach unless they start losing games. The time when you should ask for advice about your relationship is before you have started it.
Good relationships are not simply the result of chemical highs caused when we are in love, if we rely on these, we don’t get a relationship but an addiction and become addicted to the non-functional nature of the relationship. A relationship takes love, care, affection and communication and for your lives to work happily together they must be bound with overall goals and hopes. All of these are things which need to be worked out before becoming serious, otherwise serious problems can be caused in what would otherwise have been the perfect couple.
At some stage most of us go through a time when we have to be strong and brave. Whenever we find ourselves in a dangerous and continually threatening situation it is natural to ask “how long will this continue?” For some of us this question really is “how long do we need to be brave?”
Bravery is relative, it is also context specific. Above all it is all about what is going on in YOUR mind. There is a story of a World War II bomber pilot who had flown into through enemy anti-aircraft fire on numerous occasions. He said he never felt fear. There was too much to do.
The Romans believed that bravery could be taught. With an army of 500,000 men they protected an empire that encompassed Europe, the Middle East and North Africa. They regularly fought armies much larger than their own. The Roman legionaries were definitely brave.
There is nothing so disheartening as competing and knowing that you are being beaten by a player who isn’t as good as you are, or who trains less seriously than you do. Every sportsperson has participated in games where the worse player has somehow managed to win. This was particularly galling when I was the player being defeated and I could do seemingly nothing as my opponent, lacking technique and finesse, doggedly took my game to pieces and came out the bloody victor at the end. Most sportspeople know of this experience and have often experienced it both ways, taking satisfaction at knowing that they have beaten someone who is better than they are. So how does it happen?
This is a clear demonstration of how what we do with our minds affects how we perform and who we are. As human beings we have a huge amount of control over what our bodies do and how they behave and react. Since we are complicated beings, the majority of these tasks are assigned to the subconscious mind (and a good thing too, imagine what would happen if we absent mindedly forgot to breath) and since the subconscious usually operates beneath our conscious awareness we lose control of this vast and complicated system which runs our bodies for us. With NLP techniques we can take back control of some of these functions and reset the system so it operates more efficiently and towards the outcomes which we set. This is extremely useful in sport when often we have to force our bodies to operate at a peak level the logical and sensible option is simply to take a break, eat some food and relax until we have some more energy and can focus more easily on the game. Sport just doesn’t let you do that, so instead we have to force our bodies and if the subconscious is unwilling, we literally have to fight against ourselves, which distracts us from the important task of focusing on the game or the race and putting all our resources behind winning.
In other cases it is a matter of self belief. Steve Gurney expected to lose his last Coast to Coast because the running leg of the competition had been increased and he had short legs. Dr. Richard Bolstad, who was working with Steve Gurney, took him through some processes which altered the belief that he couldn’t win. For the first time ever Steve won the running section of the Coast to Coast. He attributes his success entirely to NLP and the work that Richard Bolstad did with him (see Lucky Legs, Steve Gurney).
Relationships can spiral out of control. By the time you realize that counselling might be useful it is often too late. Both parties have been under such emotional stress, have felt so much pain that they are no longer certain that they want to maintain the relationship. To end the pain is easier than trying to fix the relationship. Furthermore, even assuming that the relationship can be fixed, people may choose not to because they have experienced it break and don’t want to go through the emotional pain of having the relationship spin out of control again.
How many people do you know who are either depressed, unhappy or simply negative? There are probably numerous explanations why depression is so prevalent in today’s society but I will focus on a couple and explain how we can resolve depression quickly and effectively without resorting to drugs.
Drugs and addiction have accompanied humanity since before the birth of civilisation. Most peoples have their own forms of drugs that they take. In the Americas these consisted of tobacco, the coco plant and tobacco. In the Pacific and Melanesia, kava and betel-nut juice are prevalent. Even nomadic horse tribes had their own alcoholic beverages.
One day she told him she loved him and he broke down crying. With a lot of support from his family the teenager was able to make a full recovery and although this happened many years ago, has never relapsed.The story demonstrates an interesting point, that the pseudo-religious zeal of anti-drugs groups in many ways acts as an impediment to recovery. Many people who are addicted don’t want to be on the drug themselves but are compelled to take them by cravings and desire.
The Brooklyn Program is the most effective drug rehabilitation programme in the United States. The system developed and implemented by Dr. Richard Grey makes use of recent research into the cognitive aspects of addiction and so the programme works not only for various drug addictions but for other forms of addiction including compulsive eating disorders, addictions to particular food and beverages, and to other social problems such as sex addictions.
Most of us have goals, and by and large, we are probably pretty good at achieving most of them. Most of us have dreams, and by and large we only dream about them. Only a few turn their dreams into reality. Simple as it may seem the techniques which you use probably automatically and subconsciously for achieving the small things are the key behind getting those dreams.
Research has shown that people feel like they have achieved more and do less to achieve their goals when they talk about them. It’s fine to mention your goals to friends and family so they know what’s going on in your life, but don’t talk about them too much, stay focused on achieving them.
A common misunderstanding is that the best way to deal with a traumatic experience is to talk about it. The idea is that this gets it ‘out of the system.’ Although this is correct to some extent, it is important to understand that some ways of discussing issues can cause trauma and not heal it. There are two types of conversation which are typical when recalling traumatic experiences; one is regressive, the other progressive.
The way we think about events can be altered and changed by how we talk about them. Talking is a way of trying to work through events and understand what that event means to us. However, if we focus on the event as a very real experience which continues to control and threaten our lives, we will often start to feel the symptoms commonly associated with trauma.
Fortunately, there are other techniques which are more useful and safer for people to use. These techniques which are based on Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) approaches avoid focusing on the event itself and deal with how the recollection of the event is remembered. This technique has been used successfully around the world in trauma cases involving Vietnam veterans, victims of the September 11 attacks in the USA, and genocide and terrorist victims in Bosnia and Russia. The advantage of the NLP approach is that it is a simple method which gets people to mentally rehearse the event in a way that is without the emotional content. By using this technique we can remove the trauma associated with an event, thus making it emotionally neutral and safe.